Avoiding a Bad Marriage; By Pastor Chris Oyakhilome PhD

After salvation, the most important choice you will need to make is *who to marry*. This choice is so important that if you miss it, you will *suffer for
long*, if you get it right then you will *enjoy forever*. A bad marriage can affect every other area of your life.

This subject is so important, so many married people are hoping to be single again so as to make *the right choice*. If you are single please
don’t just be in a hurry to get married, you have the best opportunity to prepare for it.

For two people to come together to live in peace and harmony, they must agree *spiritually, mentally and physically*. Just like an elephant cannot marry an ant so also *a believer cannot marry an unbeliever*. If an elephant marries an ant how
would they live, if a goat marries a fish where would they meet? You must look for a *Godly man or a Godly woman* to marry, nothing can beat this. The devil’s primary target is the family. He knows that everyone belongs to a family and if he can make two wrong people meet then he has succeeded affecting the community and nations negatively. Ignore your age and the pressure for a moment, *the pressure in a wrong marriage is far worse*.

God has somebody for you but you must *set your priorities right*. *What do you need in a woman? What do you need in a man?*

Marriage is not about *what you want*, it is about *who you need*, that will make you better while you make him better. It is about *destiny.* That is why you must know your *purpose* before you get married. Genesis 2:18.

You must *pray before you choose*. God knows the best person for you, it is only wise to seek His will. It is very easy to know God’s will when sex is not involved. The moment sex is involved and you want to know His will then He will blank you out. Why? Because you have broken His first Law of NO SEX before marriage. If you have had sex in the past then you need to *repent totally and stay away from each other for sometime* then you can seek the face of God. Your marriage will not be hell on earth. Your marriage will be honourable in the name of Jesus Christ.

Don’t marry for sex, don’t marry because you are of age, don’t marry because you are getting *old*, don’t marry because you are *lonely,* don’t marry because you need someone to support you *financially*, don’t marry because you mistakenly got
*pregnant*, don’t marry because you don’t want to *lose the person*, don’t marry because of *family pressures*, don’t marry because you like the idea of marriage and admire every wedding gown you see, don’t marry because all your friends are getting married. But get married because you want to *fulfil destiny*. Get married because you want to be a *help mate.* As a man, get married because you want to *fulfil your purpose.* God will help you in choosing, please let His will be done. Amen!

Forward to the singles you love. God bless you! If you’re married forward to all singles you know